The Intentional Relationship
Genuine Intimacy Comes From You
The Problem
Isn't Your Partner.
It’s How YOU Engage.
Real intimacy begins when you stop trying to fix your partner and start mastering your own emotional maturity.
The Real Reason You're Here
You’re exhausted from walking on eggshells.
You’re tired of feeling misunderstood, unseen, and unmet in your basic human need—to be accepted as you are.
You’ve been taught to manage conversations, tone, and reactions.
Yet it never feels safe or close, just careful.
You want more.
And you deserve better.
Beyond Your Relationship
It goes deeper than “Relationship Issues.”
You react—from your attachment wound—left by the earliest relationships that shaped you.
- You’ve learned to trade your authenticity for acceptance.
- You’ve learned control meant safety, compliance provided connection.
- And you live in patterns of self-betrayal and shame, because no one taught you how to create healthy attachment.
And you know the problem is deeper than just “effective communication” that controls escalations. Read on to learn how to break through these patterns without doing months of psychotherapy?
How Real Change Happens
You don’t need more tools.
You need emotional accountability.
Discover how to honor your partner’s humanity exactly as you wish your own honored.
Stop demanding compliance—start fostering real equality.
Build safety from genuine respect—not control or pressure.
Shift your relationship from careful negotiation to authentic intimacy.
This program doesn’t “fix you”. It empowers you to transform your relationship dynamics by mastering your own emotional maturity.
- No psychobabble
- No BS
- Step-by-step
This course is perfect for you if:
You feel misunderstood and disconnected, despite your best efforts.
Therapy gave you insight but didn’t deliver lasting change.
You’re tired of arguments escalating or silences lasting days.
You want genuine intimacy and real emotional safety, not surface-level peace.
You’re ready to stop waiting for your partner and start making meaningful changes yourself.
If this sounds like you, you belong here.
49%
of divorced couples say their split was avoidable.
American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers
90%
of couples report increased satisfaction after completing structured couples work.
AAMFT, 2023
75%
of couples who try evidence-based interventions like EFT recover and thrive long-term.
Johnson, 2021
70%
of couples have NEVER tried a focused relationship program.
Why Most Couples Stay Stuck
(But You Don’t Have To)
The numbers don’t lie. The stats speak for themselves:
Here’s Exactly What You’ll Gain From the Course:
1: From Emotional Reactivity to Emotional Adulthood
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Identify and interrupt your emotional triggers immediately.
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Master self-regulation: remain calm and centered even in difficult interactions.
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Shift from automatic defensiveness to thoughtful responses.
2: Decoding Patterns, Pathology & Essential Needs
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Understand the unconscious relationship patterns that keep you stuck.
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Identify your unmet emotional needs clearly and effectively.
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Learn how your nervous system shapes your responses—and how to intentionally shift these reactions.
3: Communication That Connects (Without Control or Compliance)
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Develop the ability to speak honestly without hidden demands or expectations.
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Cultivate real listening that reduces defensiveness and fosters intimacy.
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Clearly communicate in ways that build trust and respect rather than resentment.
4: Boundaries, Repair & Restoration
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Understand how to hold boundaries clearly without punishment, manipulation, or emotional violence.
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Master proven methods to quickly and authentically repair relationship ruptures.
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Build genuine emotional safety through consistent, accountable communication.
5: From Conflict to Real Collaboration
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Move beyond conflict avoidance or control-based negotiation.
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Learn advanced conflict-resolution skills that deepen intimacy and collaboration.
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Become skilled in turning conflict into opportunities for growth and deeper connection.
Real Couples. Real Transformations:
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I've seen lot's of counselors, but now have everything we need to move forward in our Marriage.
Liz & Jason
It exceeded all my expectations
He's a no BS guy
It's exactly what we needed
So many of these Aha moments
There are so many things I've learned.
We'd seen five counsellors before...
We'll never need another counsellor again
Was it worth it? 100%.
Worth it? 200%.
It helped me as a person - Hugely!
I love this person more
We made a good decision
Time and money well spent
where do you get this these days
We tried traditional therapy, but it wasn't for us at all.
It was the best decision we could have made.
This is the only thing that has clicked for me, and has worked, and made sense.
L & VProgram Outline
A real program, wrapped in intentional and deliberate, no none-sense wrapper.
Do it Faster or Slower – up to you!
Main Program
- 16-Module Self-Paced Program
- 30+ Videos
- 15+ Deep Dives
- Review Questions
Step-by-step
At your own pace (Faster/Slower)
Additional Bonuses
- Libido Clinic
- Anger Clinic
- Sleep Clinic
(Optional 1-on-1 sessions at 25% discount)
Exclusive Bonuses
Book: First, Do Nothing
How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding CalmlyBook: Getting to Sure How to Lower Anxiety and Build True Self-Confidence, Trust & Resilience
This course is for you if:
✅ You’re tired of feeling unheard, misunderstood, or constantly on edge.
✅ You’ve tried therapy and communication tools, but still feel stuck.
✅ You’re committed to looking at your own role, not just blaming your partner.
✅ You want real intimacy and safety, not surface-level peace.
✅ You’re ready to do the emotional work to finally create lasting change.
Don't buy this course if:
❌ You prefer sympathy or validation instead of genuine accountability.
❌ You believe your partner is at fault and is the only one who needs to change.
❌ You’re not ready to invest emotionally in learning to contribute effectively to your relationship.
Simple Transparent Pricing
Full Course & Lifetime Access:
$1997
$297
(3 monthly payments of $99)
No hidden fees
Instant lifetime access to all modules
25% off optional 1:1 coaching, if desired
Purchase The Intentional Relationship Program
3 Monthly Payments of $99
For less than the cost of 2 therapy sessions, you have an entire relationship program and everything you need to know to create a successful relationship of equals at your fingertips.
100% No-Questions-Asked Money-Back Guarantee
If, within 30 days, you feel like this course didn’t help you move closer to understanding, connection, and real change, we’ll give you a full refund.
Anthony Santen, CT, SAC Dip(Adv. Psychotherapy)
Founder: The Intentional Relationship
25-Year Relationship Recovery Specialist
Meet Anthony
Anthony is not a typical therapist—he’s a relationship counselor with over 25 years of direct, real-world experience transforming marriages through emotional maturity and accountability.
He recognized early in his career that couples don’t need more conversations or theories. They need a structured, proven method to break reactive patterns, rebuild emotional safety, and create genuine intimacy.
Thousands of couples have rebuilt their relationships through his Intentional Relationship approach—moving from frustration, blame, and compliance to real partnership, respect, and lasting intimacy.
Still Have Questions
No. This is a self-paced online course. You learn the tools, strategies, and insights on your own time—together or solo. If you want 1:1 support, you can book Anthony anytime for 25% off.
Each week is structured clearly to require just 90–120 minutes, with lifetime access and flexible pacing. Because you have access to the full program, you can do it as fast or as slow as you like.
No. Many participants start on their own. Your new behavior and emotional clarity naturally shift your relationship dynamic, even if only one of you begins.
Self-paced. Most couples complete it in 12–16 weeks, but you can go faster or slower depending on your needs.
Most participants report noticeable shifts in the first few days. The full transformation deepens significantly over several weeks.
Yes. All lessons are online. 100% private and convenient.
That’s precisely why we’ve created this program. Beyond conventional therapy, this structured and self-guided course focuses on holistic growth, emphasizing rebuilding over reliving past experiences.
Therapy explores past causes and provides validation. This course provides clear, actionable tools that create immediate changes in emotional maturity and communication patterns.
Absolutely. Many couples use these practical tools in combination with therapy or counseling for enhanced results.
You have a full 30 days to see if you like it. Complete the course content and exercises. If you don't like it, you’ll receive a full refund.
TL;DR
Stop Waiting for Change—Create It.
You can keep waiting for your partner to understand you, to show up differently, or to “finally get it.”
Or, you can become the partner who leads with maturity, emotional accountability, and genuine respect.
Real intimacy isn’t found. It’s built—by you.
Start building today.
This is your moment. Take it.
It's well-worth the money.
S & TThis program provided us with the tools we needed.